What?!? You want to go apple picking with me?

Sometimes you have to lose one thing to appreciate another.

I have spent a lot of my, um, mature life in relationships. Right now is the first time in a long time that there isn't anyone in my life...which is how I realized how many people are in my life.

When you are in a romantic relationship (boyfriend, not boyfriend but something, fuck buddy, obsession...whatever) there is always the desire to go see that person, or call that person, or think about that person. No matter where you go or what you do they are in the back of your mind.

But when you are without such a relationship, and aren't actively looking for someone your eyes are opened to a new world of people.

There is of course family. Unconditional love, caring and support. Isn't that what you wanted from him that he couldn't give you? Well you had it the whole time from people who wouldn't dump you for the world.

And then friends. Good times, good fun. Someone to do things with, who shares your interests. Someone to try new things with. Wasn't it so frustrating that he didn't care about the things you did? Look at all of the people around you who will go shopping and enjoy it, who want to go to the bar without pouting, who will take that cooking, dancing, anything class with you and want to be there.

OMG. People who want to spend time with you. People who care about you. People who were there before him, and will be there after.

Make sure you take time to realize how special these people are, and let them know it too.